Gratitude: The Secret Gem

“Gratitude is a fullness of heart that moves you from limitation and fear to expansion and love.” Deepak Copra


Gratitude is one of those words that fills your heart with pure joy and peace.  For the most part it has had a religious association but science is now starting to see the benefits of gratitude on health, happiness and prosperity. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude helps to develop a deeper connection to our soul and is an integral virtue for spiritual development.

People who express gratitude are more inclined to be happier, be more empathetic and compassionate.  These virtues go hand in hand.  When we are grateful for what we have we feel a deep connection to others when they are in pain.  Showing gratitude helps us to accept what is and opens the doorway for abundance to enter.

Gratitude creates abundance by shifting our thinking away from what doesn’t work in our life to what is working. It is how we learn to receive what we truly are entitled to.  Abundance is manifested when we believe that we are worthy and we can see with clarity our current blessings.

Oprah Winfrey the most successful woman in the world has written a gratitude list everyday for the majority of her career.  Is she grateful because of her success or is she successful because she is grateful?  My money is on gratitude being the secret little gem.


Robert Emmons an expert on the study of gratitude in his article Five Myths about Gratitude defines gratitude as,  ” A specific way of thinking about receiving a benefit and giving credit to others beside oneself for that benefit. In fact, gratitude can be very difficult because it requires that you recognize your dependence on others, and that’s not always positive. You have to humble yourself, in the sense that you have to become a good receiver of others’ support and generosity. That can be very hard—most people are better givers than receivers.”

He makes a valid point.  Gratitude is not a form of positive thinking it creates a shift in you that says I accept help, I am okay with giving compliments, I have humility.  For all the martyrs out there this can be difficult.

Three ways to include Gratitude into your daily life:

  1.  Each day take a moment to reflect on how incredible life is.  Look at your body, feel your skin, watch a sunset, take a walk in nature, be in awe over the miracle of birth, Smile at a child, belly laugh, feel the deep love you have for your special someone, think about what makes your soul sing.  Be in awe about how incredibly lucky you are for all of this.  Breathe out gratitude.
  2. One of the simplest ways to live gratitude is to write one thing that you are grateful for every night. Trust me when I say this… it won’t be long before there are two things to write and so on.
  3. Another way to show gratitude is to give back to the less fortunate.  If you are grateful for the food that you eat, share it.  If you are grateful for the love that you get from your children, give that love back to your parents or someone else’s parents.

I have seen gratitude work its miracles… it’s a secret little gem.  Invite the powerful, transformative and healing benefits of gratitude to grace your life.

Love and light and all things nice, KR x


Train Ride with Soul!

“Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour. ” ― 

Walt Whitman 

If I could pin point the day that has inspired my life the most it would be the day I choose to begin to consciously live in the moment, for the moment and be completely present.  On this seemingly ordinary day it hit me like a ton of bricks and I knew that I needed to change.  I will start with just me.  Collectively our Western culture might need to change.

I was pregnant with my youngest daughter at the time and unable to drive, so I decided to catch a train to Brisbane City to see my Obstetrician. I was a tad bit excited; it had been years since my last train ride. The train I was about to board was the business rush train, everybody on their way to the grindstone.  Lucky for me I was pregnant so one lovely young gentleman gave me his seat.

The train was packed like a can of sardines.  I  put my bag on my lap, got comfortable, fixed my clothes and I looked up briefly as I was fumbling in my bag for my phone.  What I saw though brought on one of my biggest ah ha moments to date… every single person on that train that day was looking at a phone or tablet, except the elderly man sitting next to me and of course me… now.   I quickly slid my phone back into my bag.  I tried to make eye contact with someone, but nothing.  I tried to make sense of what had happened to society, nothing.  I felt a deep overwhelming sadness.  Luckily the lovely man next to me felt my pain and he made a big joke about how talking to people was so out of fashion these days.  So guess what?  That’s we did for the next hour, we talked, we laughed we were present.  I never really was very fashionable.

On this train ride I got to meet someone new and have a laugh, the worry about wasting an hour of my life in boredom was gone.  I  stopped caring 10 minutes into the ride that people were cranky with us because we were being too noisy… laughing.

I made a pack with myself that day… a deep one on one inner dialogue with myself.  I vowed from that moment on that I would endeavour to embrace every single moment in this life, remembering that every single morsel of this life is precious and sublime (even the shitty stuff because it enables me to really appreciate the good stuff).  I am going to make an effort to stop holding onto the past or worry about a future that is still unwritten.  Who cares if I’m on a train, this may be my last day and lets be frank train rides can change lives (Here! Here!).  Remembering to live in the moment has made my life pretty simplistic but has also brought me oodles of happiness.  I am no longer looking for the next big thing that will make me happy;  I choose to live happy!

How do you feel in this moment?  Do you have thoughts about future events?  Is your mind racing with things that you need to do (hopefully not too much because than that would mean that my blog is boring you)?  How would your life feel if you were happy with what you had and needed nothing extra?  Would you feel Joy?  Does it make you feel nervous?  It is a pretty incredible feeling being happy with what is.  There is a special energy that is attracted to what is, this energy will bring you more things in your life to be grateful for… the bigger things.  It is the ego talking when it says I will be happy when I have this or that, not your soul.  Happiness with what is equals a constant feeling of gratefulness. All this from a train ride!

Love and light and all things nice,

Kylie Riordan x


*Disclaimer:  All my blogs are intended to empower you and enable you to take responsibility to make the best choices for yourself.  The choices that I make in MY life may not be the best choices for you.  I do not judge anyone who has different opinions to me.  Kudos to you for choosing your own path in life.  I merely am a human being trying to make my life the best it can be whilst sharing what I have learned along the way.  I am mindful mummy trying to heal and master the art of making one person smile a day… at the least!